7 Keys to Surviving the Holidays (Grief)
Surviving the Holidays-Grief
The holiday season can be tough for many of us experiencing grief. However, there are some skills that we can utilize to assist us with mourning the death of loved ones during the holidays. So many of us have had to suffer through losing family and friends over the years, and Covid-19 has not made it any better.
Think of an idea to celebrate the deceased loved one. For instance, you can make a meal that they loved to cook or eat, or you can reflect with time spent with them going through family photos, and also start a new tradition in honor of them. For example, lighting a particular candle for them.
Make some time for yourself: It’s typical for several of us to go out of our way to help others spreading, joy, love and cheer however it’s important to not get overwhelmed caring for others that you neglect yourself in the process. Know that it’s ok to say NO. It’s a delicate balance at times, love yourself, and attend to yourself as well.
Grief is not only when someone passes, grief can be a family member that is placed outside of the home (nursing home, military, foster care, incarceration, etc).
Know that you are not a burden to your family, just for being sad and being in a season or grief.
Give yourself some credit, encouragement, and praise for going through this.
If you experienced the death of a loved one several years ago, don’t be ashamed that you are still stuck in grief. For many of us it takes a while to continue processing grief to become unstuck before we accept it.
Know that emotions are involved in the healing process. It’s ok to be sad, angry, experience crying spells. Love yourself and have compassion for yourself through these emotions.
For individuals helping others through grief:
Be a listener, try not to give advice, know that in many cases just your inviting presence is enough for them. Just be there and know there is no magic fix. You can also ask the person how they would like for you to help them through this. Another thing that can work is to be honest, let them know you don’t know exactly what to say, it will take some pressure off of you, and allows you to be authentic.
Reach out:
If you are having a tough year or know of someone who is struggling, please take time to reach out there are individuals prepared and willing to help. You can try friends, family members or call the National Grief line
Grief line National Toll Free Number. National Domestic Hotline 1 (800) 799-SAFE (7233) 24/7/365 days a year